It's not uncommon to find children who struggle with fruit or veg or both. It's also not uncommon that although whole fruits or veg are not on the menu, they are able to cope with purees.
Often these purees are from the baby food section of the supermarket. Apple or sweet potato/potato/corn for example.
Parents are often mortified that their older primary child is still eating what is generally thought of as baby food.
I see it differently...
Yes, it would be awesome if they were happily able to crunch through an apple or eat some roasted sweet potato. But if that's a step too far at the moment then it is.
Being able to eat fruit or veg in some form is a win and we should celebrate that. It's also the foundation for branching out. If our child is able to cope with the pureed foods it gives us a starting point.
Where can we go from there? Is it using the apple puree to make a mini popsicle? Is it adding a crumble topping? Can we use the sweet potato puree as a dip?
All these things seem like teeny tiny steps and a bit pointless. But are they?
If we're totally stuck and our child is not moving in any direction (or even worse is moving but it's backwards) then getting a change happening, however small is exactly what they, and we, need.
I often say that the smallest step that you can support your child to make is the correct one.
Are there things that you feel embarrassed about that could actually be a positive? Perspective can be very powerful :)