Yesterday as my husband and I were nagging my youngest (for the 17th million time) about how he would have to tidy his bomb-site of a room he said ... "maybe I'm just a messy person".
Telling ourselves these things can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
The more we tell ourselves these things, the more we believe them. There is no way I am letting Joe tell himself and us that there is no way the room will ever be tidy as he is “a messy person”.
Imagine how quickly that becomes a fact!
This does of course relate directly to eating. If we tell ourselves over and over that we are a picky eater or that we don’t like any veggies or that certain textures are gross, guess what??!
I often listen to adults reconfirming their food biases and think – well that seals that deal.
When we have children, who are not confident around food it is critical that both the words they hear and what their inner voice tells them are positive and forward thinking. We do not want them consistently telling everyone that they hate all veggies, because guess what?!
Similarly, when we use words it’s important that we choose them carefully. What messages are we planting in susceptible brains?
Is there anything that on reflection you tell yourself that reinforces a belief?