Max phoned me on the way home from his hockey game on Saturday totally delighted as they had drawn.
Now to put this into context:
His team are totally outclassed in their league, have lost every game this season and had (until Sat) only scored 2 goals. So when they pulled off a 1-1 draw it was a massive achievement and worth a big celebration.
This is why comparisons often fail. Looking at Max's team's scores should be cause for despair not celebration. But because I've been to every practice and pretty much every game I appreciate just how far they've come and how exciting this was.
Selective eating is identical. As parents we feed our children daily so what is a challenge for one is a breeze for another. Making comparisons is a zero sum game.
Similarly, most of us are not looking for "perfect" we're looking for progress.
A HUGE step in one family may be a pea on the plate - and that is cause for celebration.
Celebrate your child for all their steps forward even if those seem tiny and irrelevant to everyone else. Don't worry about what they can't eat. Celebrate what they can and support them to take the next baby step forward.
We are all about baby steps and supporting families to move forward gently and easily. Contact us to find out how we can work with you too.
Judith is passionate about good food and is even more passionate about enabling other people to enjoy the wide variety of fresh food available today.