And does it matter?
I speak to countless mums who tell me how their child's eating problems are their fault. They have often spent years analysing exactly what went wrong, when and how they are responsible.
But is this the full story?
As I say repeatedly, there seems to be compelling evidence that certain children are just predestined to be more picky than others regardless of parenting.
Some children have had traumatic experiences, medical issues, allergies or other issues that make eating more challenging.
Life situations that can put pressure on families, disrupt routines or upset young children can also lead to eating going awry. A new sibling, going overseas, moving house, the death of a close relative can all impact a child and their eating.
However, the good news is that we, as parents are also able to get eating back on track.
So much of this is in our approach and delivery.
After completing one of my parent workshops a mother told me that she had always believed that her son's eating issues were 90% him and 10% her. Now she was thinking she was 70% of the equation.
This is certainly not a blaming statement. In fact, the opposite. Eating, supposedly a natural and simple process is not for many children and the parents that feed them. However, there is little advice as to how to overcome feeding issues or increase variety for a child who has limited choices.
But there are strategies that empower us to make a difference. There are tried and tested methods that enable a child to overcome fears and discomfort around food and gently support them trying new menu items.
I contend that the way we approach food and feeding is critical. It's the reason I am "The Confident Eater". Having the confidence that our child is able to eat more widely and then teaching them to have that same belief is a crucial part of moving forward.
This is proven to me time and again.
In the last fornight I have totally shocked two sets of parents. I have run my parent workshop over two days. The first day is theory and the second is personalised to a child and family. Both families have children who have not added foods in months and both were skeptical their child would try a new food. However, after the general theory session alone both families saw their child eat a new food.
Both were totally amazed this had happened. I was not. I contend that so often the way we approach things determines outcome.
Our delivery matters.
Judith is passionate about good food and is even more passionate about enabling other people to enjoy the wide variety of fresh food available today.