Often we have pictures in our head around how much our child should be eating. We desperately want them to finish the sandwich or the yoghurt or just have 3 more sips of the milk.
A good question to ask: “is the extra bite/sip” for them or for us?
We may believe that our child will not be full enough if they don’t finish something off - and we could be right. Conversely are we:
- putting ourselves into the middle of something we shouldn’t and setting up a feeding dynamic that includes us?
- are we inadvertently creating a picky eating power struggle?
- could we be overriding natural satiety cues?
- are we pushing our child to eat for reasons that are logical but not necessarily helpful?
I know it’s tempting to give those prompts to get the extra spoonfuls in, especially at dinner, but does that cajoling support better eating long-term?
I have a series of questions that I love parents of fussy eaters to ask themselves when they are not sure how to proceed in a certain situation. One of them is “is this for them or is it for me?”
If an additional 2 mouthfuls of dinner takes 30 minutes, a dance and daddy spoon feeding - then I would say this is not for the child
Judith is passionate about good food and is even more passionate about enabling other people to enjoy the wide variety of fresh food available today.