One of the worst parts of parenting is the guilt. We all suffer from it to some degree (especially mothers!).
- Are we spending enough quality time with our kids?
- Should we limit screen time?
And the list goes on.
But there are some issues that just push the guilt button so hard. That keep us awake at night worrying and that make us feel like we're failing.
Eating is one of those. Part of that is biology - we are hard-wired to feed our kids. No matter how hard it is, we are driven to make sure they don't have an empty tummy.
When feeding becomes challenging it's really difficult not to feel totally demoralised, worried and yes guilty.
But is it our fault?
- We often feel it is
- Other people tell us it is
- Society points fingers and wants to know why we're stuffing our child with nuggets not kale
In my experience parent guilt is terribly unhelpful and often misguided. I work with families every week that have one child that struggles to eat and other children who don't.
Sure there may be reasons that one child is less able to tackle new foods than another but it's not a parent's "fault".
Unfortunately that doesn't stop us from feeling guilty that our child survives on a limited diet.
So today I'd like to do two things:
1. Assure you that not eating variety is very, very common in children (in fact it affects around 50% of kids at some stage).
2. Convince you that getting children eating more variety is absolutely possible. They may not go from nuggets to curries overnight but you can expand their diet however limited their repertoire.
If you feel guilty because your child is not eating whole food groups or not participating at dinner or stuck on a handful of foods. Then please get in touch.
You'll be surprised how simple changes can make a HUGE difference. You'll also love how taking action lifts some of that guilt straight away.
Always happy to talk and see if we can provide solutions
Judith is passionate about good food and is even more passionate about enabling other people to enjoy the wide variety of fresh food available today.