I know a lot of parents wrestle with this. They were fussy as kids or know relatives who "grew out of" the picky eating so why pay an expert?
Do kids grow out of “picky eating”?
Yes, many do.
And yet many don’t.
But let’s take a big step backwards and ask ourselves the hard questions:
1. How long is it OK for kids to eat only a limited variety of foods for?
2. Is it OK for kids to not eat veggies for a few years?
3. Are they missing out if they can’t share family meals?
4. Are you missing out if your kids can’t share family meals?
5. Do you dread going to restaurants with your kids?
6. Are you happy to wait 1, 5, 10 years for things to right themselves?
7. Do you feel guilty your child is not getting enough nutrients now?
8. Is trying to feed your kids driving you nuts?
9. Have you given up getting them to eat new things?
10. Do you feel your child is beyond help?
11. Are you feeling like a failure as everyone else’s kids eat well?
12. Do you compare your situation positively with another child who only eats crackers?
13. Were you or your husband “picky” as kids so you think it’s inevitable?
14. Do you worry about most social occasions on behalf of your child?
If you’re ticking a lot of these boxes, then why not do a session?
And just in case you wanted the answers:
1. The longer your child eats a limited diet, the greater the chance of nutrient deficiencies
2. Veggies are crucial for delivery of vitamins, fibre and anti-oxidants. Nothing can replace them effectively
3. Cooking more than one meal? Catering every day is hard enough!
4. How nice would it be to go Indian or Thai and have the kids excited?
5. Every month you wait embeds bad habits
6. Parent guilt is an insidious thing. It keeps us awake at night
7. Why be frustrated? Life is hard enough and there are more important battles to fight
8. Most parents get to the “give up” point
9. Kids are NEVER beyond help
10. Not feeling confident about any area of parenting is tough
11. It’s always tempting to compare ourselves positively with someone doing it tougher. But does that make our situation any better?
12. It’s not inevitable. We all project unwittingly but your child is quite capable of eating widely
13. Our kids have enough worries. Let’s take away one
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I watched this video back in January and it reconfirmed everything I've read/learned/researched personally.
Can we learn to like foods? ABSOLUTELY YES.
It doesn't matter how old we are or how limited our diet. The science speaks for itself, we can learn to love a food - even if it's something we currently really, really dislike.
I do this for myself on an ongoing basis (indicative of a sad life I know!) learning to like a new or less favoured food. Current challenges are tarragon and spirulina ..
This is so important when it comes to our selective eaters. Is trying a little bit on an ongoing basis worthwhile - absolutely yes. Can your child learn to like new foods. That's a resounding yes.
The responsibility rests with us to get them to continue to try, to continue to learn.
If you're struggling to get the kids to even try new foods then contact us. We have the tools and the strategies that will make this a reality in your house Judith@theconfidenteater.com
I had a couple come to a 4 Hour Empower on Saturday.
In the follow-up questionnaire they said that they didn't expect to learn much as they'd already tried everything.
And yet they still came. Many parents would not have.
And had they tried everything? I am sure that they had. They were intelligent, well-read and really, really determined to ensure their son ate well. The mother had read every article available and had tried a raft of strategies.
Despite this they were shocked at how much new information they received and how the session empowered them to go away and make changes. And this morning they reported that on Sunday they’d enjoyed 3 meals with their child.
So if they had tried everything what can I add?
1. Structure. I give you the foundations and the framework. You then can slot any strategies into this pattern and have them be effective. Strategies in a vacuum are like houses with bad foundations, you can have the most expensive windows and flooring but it doesn’t make it a good house.
2. I give you a plan. A simple step by step way to get from A to B. Something that tells you HOW.
3. I teach you why things are going wrong and how to change that so things start going “right”. We are all a product of our upbringing and experiences and we create patterns in our parenting. Sometimes it’s simple to see from the outside how small changes to our approach can make a massive difference. That’s what I do – for a living!
I have spent years studying, experimenting and working directly with children who struggle to eat. In one session I can give you enough information to go away and totally change your approach to food. To have plans to implement and strategies that make change simple. It works.
Love to see you at a session because it is a life-changing experience and one that you will walk away from relieved and wishing only that you’d done it sooner. Yes I am that confident and because all my feedback says that I do not communicate the benefits of what I offer effectively and yet I truly can enable you to work magic at the mealtime
What I always ask parents is:
"How would you feel if you ate what your child eats for a week?"
If the thought horrifies you then you MUST get in touch.
We can get kids eating the foods that make them feel great.
And we all want our kids to feel great. All the time ...
Lamb and lentils. One of Joe's favourite dishes. It's simple to cook, hearty and full of fabulous ingredients. It goes in the thermos and stays nice and warm on a wet day like today.
But it doesn't look so flash.
And getting negative comments about their lunches has unfortunately been a common occurrence for my boys.
From very young we have drilled into them both that commenting negatively on someone else's food choice is not polite. This has given them some insulation against the taunts. Their first reaction is "why is that person being so rude?"
If you have a selective eater this is super important. Speaking negatively about food doesn't improve the chances of it getting eaten. Food should always be discussed in positive terms - even if it's not ones favourite thing, yet!!
I generally work with parents when things have got really tough in the eating sphere.
They are dreading meals or have given up and just serve the same few meals on rotation as they know the pasta/nuggets will get eaten.
But even when things have hit rock bottom and the kids are down to a handful of foods they will willingly accept we CAN make a difference.
Don't take it from me, hear a story from one of the parents who attended a 4 Hour Empower just 10 days ago:
Her daughter (who we'll call Ruby) has special "meals" at Daycare as she will not eat the catered meals like the other kids. Ruby's "meals" are rice or pasta with cheese on the side.
Since the workshop Ruby has eaten capsicum, orange and kale chips at Daycare. In fact, she ate the most kale chips!!
Was Ruby the "fussiest" kid at Daycare? Yes definitely, as she wouldn't eat any of the foods on offer. But is that going to change? Absolutely. It's already started. In fact, Ruby will probably end up eating a very impressive range of foods. Watch this space ....
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Food fascinates me.
One of the things I find most interesting is how one ingredient can become many different things. Think potatoes which are chips, crisps, mash, jackets, wedges, skins etc.
Joe is not a big fish fan (aside from rainbow trout and salmon - expensive tastes much!). But that doesn't mean I don't serve it to him. Why?
a) tastes change and not liking something today doesn't mean that's fixed forever (in fact all the studies show the opposite).
b) I may find something that ticks his boxes
Tuesday night was just such a night. I had some left-over white fish and wanted it to be more appealing for Joe. So I made herby, cheesy, potato cakes and added the fish to them. Formed patties, baked in the oven and served. Both boys snarfed. They were arguing over who had had the most even though there were plenty left!
Unfortunately my beautifully presented patties suffered badly from being shoved into a too small pot overnight so they are not looking the best in the photo. Thermos came back empty though so Joe was obviously happy with his fish.
What reincarnation of food has worked for you?
Getting kids eating fruit and vegetables
For many parents this is the daily challenge. How to get the kids eating more fruit and/or veg or just eating them!
We ran a session weekend before last with a group of parents. One of the little boys ate no fruit (except a banana in his “milkshake”) – even though he’s at daycare and watching all his peers scoffing it down every day.
How did his parents get him eating fruit? - Because they did ....
5 days after their 4 hour empower session he happily ate apple and pear at daycare.
The answer is, very simply. They changed the food dynamic in the house. They didn’t change him they just changed the approach to food.
This is what we do at The Confident Eater. Like dieting for adults – it is not about which diet you follow but is successful only when people change their thinking about food.
We can teach you to do that and how to teach your children to do the same. Imagine your children forever having a positive relationship with food. This is an unbelievable gift …
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YES PLEASE I WANT MY KIDS TO EAT MORE FRUIT AND VEG
Judith is passionate about good food and is even more passionate about enabling other people to enjoy the wide variety of fresh food available today.