I was in a meeting today and a business coach said this. It really resonated with me as I believe it's an important part of why picky eaters get stuck in limiting patterns.
The habits are habitual, as in they are things that we just do without thinking. Brushing teeth, getting dressed in a particular order, cooking peas a certain way etc.
This is one of the huge hurdles we face as parents when we have a picky eater. They have habits on habits in regards to food. So many of their decisions become automatic rather than being the result of conscious thought.
If I had a dollar for every parent that said to me "I know they'd like x if they just tried it". But their child just says an automatic no without even considering the try. This is the power of habit.
Unfortunately, this is compounded by us, the parents. We too have our habits and we approach meals in the same way every day, we serve things a particular way and we use the same language and responses over and over again.
When I work with parents I always ask them to look at their side of the dance. If we are repeating the same steps every day it's very easy for our child to repeat theirs.
For us to expect a change in our child it's important that we too expect to make changes.
Are there words or phrases that you find yourself repeating? Is there a pattern to the way that you serve meals and snacks? Have you spent time thinking about this or trying a change?
What is one thing that you often say in regards to food? If you don't think there is one ask the family. I sometimes (foolishly) do this and get a barrage of answers ...
I'd love to hear some favourites and will give some suggestions on how to change the conversation, where I can.
Judith is passionate about good food and is even more passionate about enabling other people to enjoy the wide variety of fresh food available today.